This post is a real, unedited LinkedIn conversation I had right after my engagement was fixed. A moment that unexpectedly captured my year-long journey of understanding the matchmaking process.
Nikita: Hi, this is Nikita. I saw your profile on a matrimonial site.
Me: Hi Nikita, I'm sorry but my engagement got fixed, i didn't expect but it happened.
Nikita: Oh congratulations, wish you all the best 🤝
Me: Thank you.
Me: Bit surprised that you reached out on LinkedIn, How is your matchmaking process going on
Nikita: Going nowhere... My relatives brought a few matches that I don't like. So registered my self on a matrimonial site. So far nothing much interesting.
Me: I spent a year looking for the smartest girl possible. Put my entire career at risk 😅
Nikita: Wow, putting entire career at risk for marriage. Can you tell me more? I want to know.
Me: Can't tell you everything, but a few things which might be useful to you.
Me: But first tell me. What is your family background, wealth?
Nikita: Nothing much. I'm like a breadwinner to my home. My grandfather has around 3 acres of land.
Me: Salary?
Nikita: 19 lakhs.
Me: Sounds like you don't need much help, you will get pretty good shots.
Nikita : Say me.
Me: Fine...
Nikita: Hello, What are you typing for so long? Are you building OnePlus app or what?
Me: I'm somewhat rational person may not be much useful if you are otherwise. But here you go.
- Get the photos right. Spare some cash get a photoshoot, get authentic one's. It's really important.
- You really can't get everything you want, you need to know what you are looking for. Education, family wealth, Beauty etc. look for it, ignore other things
- If you get a chance, speak to people as much as possible at least you will get some practice, and know how to reject a guy.
- Find a wingman, brother, father or mom, train them, use them to ask Hard questions like payslips
- Try to understand what kind of people are interested in you. Collect as much data as possible. Analyze.
- Make your online presence clear, use them to send your message.
- Think of what made you special. Your hobbies, cool things you did from childhood, your dreams, write them down.
- I can't tell a lie and get away with it (i tested), but if you can. they say everything is fair in love and war. 😊
- To be honest match making process is broken, no point of worry about it. Just try to get as much as possible out of it.
Nikita: Wow man ❤️
Me: Finally, It's a long ride, don't forget to look after yourself.
Nikita: Ya. That’s why i started searching myself
Me: I know, I always admire self sufficient people.
Me: As i said, nothing to worry you will get a pretty good shots. Wish you all the best.
Nikita: Thank you Vamsi
Me: Cheers!